The Sex Psychologist: We're Not Having Enough Sex! Fat Makes You Attractive! Dr Bill Von Hippel

TL;DR

The video argues that humans are systematically mis-selecting autonomy over social connection, driven by evolutionary instincts that misfire in modern environments. Data show urban dwellers are wealthier but less happy than rural residents, the Hadza hunter-gatherers report twice the happiness of Westerners despite far harsher conditions, and marriage, neighborly interaction, and sexual activity h

Key insights

• The core problem for wealthy, educated, urban Westerners is overweighting autonomy (doing what I want right now) at the expense of connection, a form of “miswanting” that steadily reduces happiness.
• People in the country are happier than people in cities, even though city dwellers are ~25% wealthier. Rural residents have stronger mutual interdependence and trust.
• Poor people spend more time with neighbors than rich people because they literally need each other (borrow tools, watch kids). Rich people outsource these needs, losing the social bonding that comes f