Divorce Expert: Slippage Is Tearing Marriages Apart! If Kids Are Your Priority You’ll Divorce!

TL;DR

James Sexton, a divorce lawyer with 25 years of experience, argues that most marriages fail not because of love but because of "slippage"—the gradual accumulation of small neglects. He states that the core problem is that people prioritize their children over their partner, which leads directly to divorce.

Key insights

• Slippage is the process of many small, individually insignificant choices that accumulate over time until a relationship fails; it happens "very slowly and then all at once," analogous to going bankru
• Getting married is an "incredibly dangerous" idea that fails 56% of the time; it has "almost nothing to do with love" and is largely a performative, culturally imposed institution.
• Having a child with someone is the most risky activity in relationships because a child can be "weaponized" for emotional and financial leverage in a divorce.